It honestly doesn't run that poorly, the only issue is loading into worlds the game stops for a moment

Bro has 32gb of RAM

My minecraft crashes whenever I use forge<3

Like if I open the forge launcher it just crashes, no mods or anything, I physically have to use fabric to play modded

Oh.

I use fabric through a mod manager called Modrinth. It lets you put together multiple modpacks and keeps the saves separate so you don't fuck up a world.

Also, a world editing mod called axiom seems to have hidden optimization in it.